“Kiss the pain away to make it better” is a well-known childhood refrain for scraped knees and other hurts. And yes, it does work, for the symbolism of a loving kiss bestowed does bring healing to a wounded psyche.  

We all invariably experience the weight and pain of life at some point in our lives. When it feels like life itself is out to get you, and everything appears awry. Emotional pain leaves one in agony as it is most oftentimes times inflicted by those that have a place in our heart, that is family, friends and lovers. Not only are you left reeling, untethered with clipped wings but your trust in yourself, others and in life itself has been summarily cancelled. 

Understand that most oftentimes emotional hurts lead to stunted emotional growth. Emotionally we are often stuck at the age that the hurt occurred. Painful experiences most often lead us to surround ourselves with a protective barrier, a symbolic wall that is supposed to protect against emotional hurts, not knowing that this very wall also keeps out the good stuff that life holds. Building symbolic walls will rob you of future joys in the long run, as this forced isolation leaves you unable to bond with others emotionally. 

Strong interdependent relationships with others are dependent on genuine emotional vulnerability. Learn to open yourself up emotionally to receive the sweet fruit of love and belonging. 

Recognize that it is time to let go of resentment, as you are most frequently the only casualty of your own bitterness. Stop focusing on the negatives, on your own pain and anger and realize that your negativity is affecting innocents in the present.  

Realize that you are indeed one of a kind, very special, irreplaceable and there is nobody else like you. Stop pretending you are fine all the time, nobody is. It does not serve you. You have to learn to open up and mature emotionally. Comprehend that emotional vulnerability is not a weakness but indeed a strength. 

Instead become intentionally emotionally available. Know that emotions are purposed to allow you to feel and express the agonies and ecstasies of your life experiences. The key is not to be a slave to your emotions but to use it to harvest the vast and diverse richness of the human experience. Stop hanging onto your ego, stop lying to yourself. Yes, your emotional hurts made you put up a defensive wall and you decided to be independent and immune against forming emotional bonds as you had first-hand experience of the pain it can inflict. However, recognize that now as an adult you possess all the necessary tools to heal those wounds and re-enter your life, no longer fragmented but whole and authentic, which will allow you to live your best life  

To recover and heal from your hurts you need to recognize that it is impacting you negatively in the present. Make the decision that it is time to make the necessary change for healing to occur. So, make the effort to resurface your true self, stop carrying your pain like a security blanket as it keeps you emotionally unavailable. The separation within you is caused by your emotional wounds. Regain a sense of yourself by cultivating a sense of self accountability and responsibility, stop the blame game. Explore and gain understanding about what is lingering in your inner consciousness preventing you from emotional vulnerability. 

Free yourself from the emotional hurts and distractions. Get off the revenge trial, it only brings despair. Take baby steps towards healing emotional issues, and understand that though you cannot change the other person you can balance yourself out by accepting and seeing the person and situation for what it is. Give love and compassion to yourself and others in order to become emotionally balanced. Comprehend that your emotions are key to understanding what lies within, so do not block them, but welcome them as they enrich your soul journey exponentially. What do you want? Decide today. Stop holding onto the past and awaken to the possibilities of this day. 

I trust that these quotes will provide you with the necessary impetus to address your emotional hurts so that you can become emotionally balanced. 

Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion - Buddha 

Compassion is what allows you to see, feel, hear your pain, that is acknowledge and honour your pain by giving it the necessary attention with an open heart, non-judgmental; which is all necessary for healing to occur, as it facilitates deep understanding and acceptance 

Time doesn't heal emotional pain; you need to learn how to let go - Roy Bennett 

You have to set the intention to heal your emotional hurts and follow through by acknowledging your hurts, and processing it to gain the necessary understanding and clarity in order to finally release it. 

Emotional pain of any kind is a reminder to stop and look inside - Gary Zukav 

Emotional pain is the soul signalling you that whatever you have experienced has hurt you at a core level in order for you to do the necessary to alleviate it by giving the situation your necessary attention. Do not make the mistake to ignore it as it doesn't dissipate without you acknowledging it and doing the necessary to process and release your pain.  

Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful parts of ourselves - David Richo 

It is our emotional hurts that allow us the opportunity to gain valuable self-knowledge and insight into our psyche and by default allow us to be more compassionate to ourselves and others. 

I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love - Mother Teresa 

It may appear paradoxal but our deepest emotional pain can bring deep compassionate understanding and ultimately love for ourselves and others if acknowledged, processed and released.  

The pain will leave once it has finished teaching you - Unknown 

Each painful situation holds an opportunity for you to gain understanding of your true nature which can lead to growth if you so choose to honour it by learning the lesson it teaches you.