When your heart is breaking because someone has rejected you, done you wrong, then do not, please, do not try to hide behind your social mask. Instead, honour your pain by fully experiencing it, cry a river and do not make the mistake of dismissing your pain by masking it with fakery. 

Instead seek intentionally things that restore your faith, trust and hope by doing things that spark joy in you. Yes, indulging in ice-cream or chocolate offers a momentary respite, but in the long run can cause health problems if you start using it as a crutch. Try to restore your hope by planting something as it will genuinely delight you to see it grow and flourish. Try to connect with a pet as their unconditional adoration will affirm your being, you can accomplish this through volunteering at a shelter or by dog walking. Strive to do things that will allow you to experience genuine feelings of love, hope and joy. Oftentimes you think you are being brave by pretending you are not hurt to the core of your being. Remember, fakery is the building materials for walls that you think is protecting you against future hurts. Instead, it is imprisoning you in a place of fear. You will yourself to divorce yourself from feeling love, no longer trusting others and yourself enough to show vulnerability. In the process, you hurt yourself by punishing yourself for another's wrong doings. Don't do that, instead seek ways to nurture yourself, your soul and your spirit by investing your energies in things that will bring a healthy restorative return. Also, do not fixate on the person that wronged you, remember free will is the birthright of each one of us, so respect theirs. Do not build a shrine for them on which you hang all your miseries, feeding it daily with obsessive thoughts of how you can make them pay for hurting you. Leave that to the universe. Instead, put them in a box in your mind marked “history, lesson learnt.” Mourn their loss with genuine appreciation for the spark of joy their presence ignited in you. They symbolise that you are capable of deep love and you should celebrate this fact. Do not disavow love but instead remind yourself that your person is still out there. Work on your inner state of being using mindset practices that enhance your sense of well-being so that when you find them you will be in an ideal state of mind to enjoy the new love. 

Do not make the mistake of dwelling on “why” as your answers will be probably along the line of “I am not good enough, blaming your hair, skin or figure. “Not good enough”, is that old tired refrain of self-abuse you are wont to Indulge in when facing rejection. Don't go there. You just have to look around and see loving couples venerating each other despite their bodies not fitting society’s ideal criteria. You see true love is totally accepting as you look with your heart and not only your eyes. So fat thighs, jiggly butt, premature balding, whatever, makes no difference. When they look at you, they see perfection. Your union is based on a soul-heart connection, which is not dependent on the shape of your body or the look of your face. I am not saying that you cannot work on your outer appearance, if you so wish. As long as you realize that it is your inner state that is the deciding factor, as far as attracting true love is. True love looks past so-called imperfections as the attraction is the beauty of your soul and heart. Look on these experiences as lessons that you need to learn for your own growth. Cultivate discernment in knowing what serves you and allow you to soar and what hurts you and puts you in chains. These people that hurt you are not evil satanic spawn, they are merely used to teach you never to sell your birthright and to strengthen your sense of worthiness. These people truly are lessons disguised as a person. So, no hate, instead be thankful that they brought your inner warrior to light, allowing you to innately know that old truth “I deserve better than this.” 

Life on earth is all about progress, growth and learning that you, your authentic self is truly enough. All these life lessons are not meant to break you but help you build your resolve to stay true to yourself. Being adaptive and flexible are tools that should be used for your own good. However, oftentimes you still stubbornly cling to circumstances and people you innately know do not serve your highest good. The struggle is real but the Divine never gives up and life will devise a way to pry your grasping fingers off your dud prize one by one if necessary until you release and move on. The vast majority will agree in hindsight that their most painful struggles has always birthed their best self. Your hurt was an organic response to help you recognise that you have been wronged. You were not supposed to cling to the ensuing pain forever and allow it to harden your heart. When your life appears to shatter around you, it is difficult to not be transfixed by all the wrongs in your life and feel defeated, like a moth to a flame. Acknowledge that though heartbreak is brutal, it is the actions you take now that will allow you to start afresh. 

Overcoming heartache is difficult but necessary in order to move forward in life. I hope these quotes will encourage you to shake off old hurts and do the necessary to embrace new love. 

Hearts live by being wounded - Oscar Wilde 

The saying “better to have loved and lost than not to have loved” at all is archaic but true. Loving is your core essence so loving someone can never be wrong, even if they turn out to be the wrong one. Each lesson in love helps you to recognize your worth and ultimately allow you to grow into knowing you are enough, period. That is when the right person will turn up. So do not waste your energy on regret but shake it off, learn the lesson and move On. Next, please. 

Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation - Khalil Gibran 

Most oftentimes you have to lose a person to realise how much they meant to you. Too often we take our loved one for granted until they are no longer with us. Only then we see the enormous hole their absence is causing in our life, heart and soul. You only realize the worth of a person once they are gone.   

Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness - Steve Maraboli 

Mourn the loss and appreciate the beautiful memories your life experience has left you with. Remember this experience afforded you an opportunity for growth, take it and get back into the maelstrom of life and love knowing better and more about love and yourself than you knew before. 

No relationship is ever a waste of your time. If it didn't bring you what you want, it taught you what you don't want - Unknown 

Each relationship teaches you something about yourself and helps you to recognize your worth, so each relationship plays a role in shaping you and moving you forward to understanding yourself better.  

Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck - Dalai Lama 

Ultimately, we must have faith that the Divine has our back and that when a relationship breaks down, it is for our highest good. Let go and let God is our trust in life made manifest. 

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together - Marilyn Monroe 

Sometimes we refuse to let go, holding on because we fear there is nothing better out there for us. However, hindsight always shows that once we let go; what we ultimately receive is much better than what we could have imagined. 

I’m thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn't have stumbled across my strength - Alex Elle 

We have all been there, declaring that we will surely die if we lose our crush just to find ourselves surviving and being the better for the ordeal. 

The thing about happiness is that it doesn't help you to grow; only unhappiness does that. So, I'm grateful that my bed of roses was made up equally of blossoms and thorns - Lana Turner 

We all can attest that our biggest growth came from our challenges not our joys.