Expressing your feelings are healthier than swallowing them. Expressing them acts as an escape valve which allows you to release and let go. When you swallow your feelings, you interrupt the organic processing of your emotions, causing blockages which inevitably stunts your emotional experience and the expressing of it. You become numb and no longer able to know what you feel, as you have short circuited your ability to experience and express what you feel in a natural and normal manner. When you allow yourself to experience your feelings fully, you are honouring and helping yourself to be authentic.
When someone breaks your heart, it is better to cry and vent. This will allow the healing process to kick in naturally. After time you will heal and be ready to move on, whole, happier and healthier. However, if you swallow your hurt, you will harden your heart and consequently find it much more difficult to form relationships.
“Who swallows too much eventually drowns”
this old Spanish proverb sums up perfectly the importance of not swallowing your emotions.
I came across a movement online that uses a fresh approach to release things that no longer serves you.
It states that when you find yourself overthinking to the point of exhaustion, unable to release a situation that no longer serves you, saying; “fuck it” deliberately and intentionally with feeling, tricks your mind into releasing it effortlessly.
The philosophy behind this approach states that saying “fuck it” is a spiritual approach that allows you to release and let go, as the word symbolizes to your mind and soul that you are done dealing with the situation and are ready to move on.
Expressing what your heart is full of will stop your mind from dwelling on it endlessly. This will allow you to move forward in grace, no longer burdened by overthinking, which is freeing in itself.
Pent up emotions are not only stifling but tends to harden your heart space. Your fear makes you avoid emotional vulnerability by blocking you from forming emotional attachments. You think it is protecting you from potential emotional hurts, however it is actually robbing you from living fully.
When you don't allow yourself to experience the emotional rollercoaster and vulnerability that caring for others evoke, you curtail your ability to form meaningful relationships and experience the joy that intimacy allows. Instead, you will become bitter and disillusioned with life.
Therefore, do not curtail your anger. Anger is not the enemy but merely an emotional alarm warning you that someone is stepping on your dignity. This affords you the chance to clearly state that
IT. IS. NOT. OK.
Do not allow yourself to be disrespected as you will stew in ever growing resentment if you do not speak up.
Recognise that learning to express and not suppress your emotions and feelings in an appropriate manner is the most significant thing that influences your happiness and contentment in life and allows you to feel more connected to others and life itself.
Just like children, emotions heal when they are heard and validated - Jill Bolte Taylor
When you allow yourself to feel your emotions fully, not suppressing it, you actually regain your emotional balance quicker. Your emotions are not the enemy but designed to allow you to be saturated with the rich colours of emotions that being alive evokes in us. So, don't ignore or suppress it but allow yourself to fully experience and process it, that is, feel it and then release it.
Do not let another day go by where your dedication to other people's opinions is greater than your dedication to your own emotions! - Steve Maraboli
Your emotions and feelings should be viewed not as a hindrance but an asset that allows you to experience the delights and agonies that life brings you. Your emotions and feelings are what colours you with the essence of life, so do not fear it nor suppress it. Learn to express them appropriately and harvest their energy to fuel and colour your life exponentially.
In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it - Mitch Albom
You need to understand the origin of your feelings by fully processing it. This will allow you to gain clarity which will help you to regain emotional control which will help you to release it effortlessly to restore emotional balance.
The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it - Nicholas Sparks
When you acknowledge and process what you feel without judgement, your acceptance of your feelings allows it to saturate your life with emotional colour, leaving it richer. Your emotions will dissipate naturally as it was allowed free flow with no blockage such as suppression causing it to dam up. This free flow is healing in itself as you have allowed it to be experienced in its entirety.
Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don't lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier - Sabaa Tahir
The ability to experience emotions is a gift that is often misunderstood and feared when it actually enriches our lives and our very being. Emotions in itself, the good the bad and downright ugly, allows you to experience bliss as well as despair which helps to shape you into who you are meant to be. It is suppressed emotions and feelings that causes problems as it disturbs your emotional balance. Recognise that suppressed emotions will out eventually either as emotional outbursts at inopportune moments or as psychosomatic disorders that causes much more havoc in your life than if you had accepted and processed it at the outset.
