Practicing Positivity does not entail suppressing negativity, but rather the process involves experiencing it fully in order to understand it. Once you have processed it with understanding, then you can let go of the negative feeling. People are inclined to hold onto grievances with a death grip and want to offer it free board and lodging for life. Letting go is healing, so do it, let go. Positivity practices become ultimately toxic if it is not in sync with reality. Denying or minimising negative emotions is not what positivity is all about. Minimization, which is the outright denial of the authentic emotional experience does not align with the positivity mindset. Emotions serve a purpose, acknowledging it, is better than suppressing it. A sad situation evokes sadness, and thus it cannot be wrong to experience sadness. It is healthier to honour what you feel than suppressing it to avoid making others feel uncomfortable. However, letting go once the feeling has been processed is the trick to achieving wellbeing. An emotion serves as a nudge, not a crutch.  

Saying affirmations is essentially paying compliments to yourself. Self-praise is necessary in order to strengthen self-love. Affirmations help us to highlight our own talents without having to wait on the approval of others. Your relationship with yourself is no different than your relationships with others, it also requires time, attention, and work to blossom into a relationship based on unconditional love. 

Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let today be the day you act upon it _{Steve Maraboli} 

This saying reveals the sad truth that nobody but yourself stands in your way of living a better life. We oftentimes block our potential advancement in life with a “cannot” attitude instead of clearing the way with a “can do” attitude.  

This is the perfect time for you to engage in practices that nourish and give you pleasure. Remember that you are just as important and worthy of being taken care of. Take time to care for your own needs and wants, the same as you do for others. Doing so allows you to be more fulfilled in your own being. Begin today to set the intention of practicing self –care regularly. This practice allows you to nurture your growth and wellbeing. Treating yourself with kindness and respect sounds easier than it is. Some people labour under the false assumption that being self-disparaging is a form of humility. No, it is not, it is just plain cruelty. Endeavour to henceforth make a decided effort to stop harsh self-criticism. 

It is important to direct time and energy to self-love. Making a date with yourself is the easiest way to get a chunk of time for yourself. Intentionally do things that pleases you and make your soul sing with happiness. Whether it means indulging in beauty treatments, curling up with a longed for read, watching a movie or just chilling in your favourite space, just go ahead and do it. When you resonate love towards yourself, giving love to others will be sans resentment or the expectation of anything in return. When you are full of love for yourself you are more capable of pouring love into your other relationships. Selfcare means allowing yourself time to do things that give you peace and joy, without the pressure of having to consider the needs of others.